"Family" VS Family

"Blood is thicker than water."

"You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family."

Just a few phrases I have often heard growing up. We were raised that your "Family" are the ones that are directly related to you. "Family" is blood. Eh- I have a different opinion on the matter.

In the past, I don't know, ten years, I have come up with my own definition as to what "Family" is. In today's society we have stretched so many different words in to meaning different things. How many people do we call our friends? With the invention of social media outlets like Facebook, we can be "friends" with whomever sends you a friend request, regardless of ever meeting them in person. It's just a popularity contest anymore. I'm guilty of the "Oooo, he looks cute" add, but we all have those people in our list that we look at them and go "Who the fuck?" The word friend is thrown around so much anymore.

Which brings me back to this week's topic. I have a lot of "friends" who I met at bars a million years ago, but then I have that core group of people who are true friends to me. They are what I consider my true "Family". In my head my family consists of people who I'm directly related to like my sister, my aunt, my cousins (all of whom I love dearly) and can't picture myself without. Then I have people in my "Family" who aren't blood but they might as well be. I have a few girl friends who I truly think of them as my sisters (you know who you are!). There is nothing I can't ask them and I know there is a plethora of things they would do for me that I know some of my "Family" would just scoff at. I also have my future husband. Even though it's only been one month shy of a year, I can't picture my family without him.

They say "blood is thicker than water". I don't know about you, but blood is kinda gross, and I don't really want blood in my water... fanks. That, and blood isn't always good for you. Blood carries so many diseases. I prefer to keep my own blood a pretty red and uncontaminated with some of the poison I have seen in so many other families.

I read an article the other day where two family members, as a punishment, made the young 9 year old Savannah Hardin run for three hours as a punishment for lying. Later the girl died from seizures brought on by dehydration. That's not family. Family sticks up for each other. Family doesn't question, they just love you.

I know full and well that I am loved by my Family. I know my sister would support me in anything I do. I know my girlfriends will always answer their phone to talk. I am so grateful for the Family I have been given, and the family that I chose because of the great love that I feel daily, even if I am- wait for it....

That1GayGuy

That's soooo gay!

In today’s society we use the word gay synonymous with the words stupid or dumb. Most homosexuals have a problem with this, saying it’s demeaning to "our people." I, however, have no problem with it. Words evolve: it’s what they do.

Yeah, I get that when originally used it was to mean something offensive to the homosexual community, but when used today people don’t think about it that way. Hell, the word "gay" used to mean happy! However, that is not what my blog is about this week.

The thing that confuses me is when people say things like "Wow, you are REALLY gay!" or "He’s not that gay, he’s really into sports and stuff." Hmmm…I didn’t know that being gay could be measured. Come on people! Either you’re gay or you're not!

The word gay, or homosexual rather, is defined as: “A person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex”.  Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but you're either attracted to the same sex or you’re not. Just because my fiance' likes to watch college football doesn't make him any less gay than me. And on the flip side, just because I can quote "Legally Blond" word for word doesn't make me any more gay.

Part of me feels that this way of thought is one of the things that makes the crazy conservatives convince people that they are "no longer gay." Trust me girlfriend, last time I checked, you still like dudes. I've seen your Craigslist ads.

This is something that I have struggled with my whole life. I always thought "I don't want to be “that gay” which, in turn, has held me back for years. I got to a point where I realized that I'm almost 25 and I don't know where my future is headed. I was always that guy who when asked by someone attractive "What kind of music do you like?” I ALWAYS said "Oh, you know, I like all kinds of music." Now granted, that's not a lie, but if you know me I am and forever will be a Pop Princess.  But this all goes back to me not wanting to be pigeon holed as being "really gay."

Then it hit me like like a ton of beads at gay pride. I'm not "really gay".  I'm just gay and I like what I like. I may have some of what you call "feminine" behaviors, it doesn't make me any more gay. Just like saying liking cars makes you that much more straight. I know plenty of my "gurls" that like cars, and they like boys just as much as  do... trust!

I know I’m nit-picking but hey, it’s my opinion. I'm not PC at all but this is something that bugs me and always make me say "Whaaa?".  Hey, what can I say?  I like pop music, I love musicals, and I can't wait to start hair school.

I AM that1gayguy.

my Favorite taBloid

 Being gay, i am in love with the newest gossip. Yes, i am that guy. Whether it be Lindsey's newest stint at rehab, or my friends on again off again relationships, I thrive on gossip. I am constantly checking my Facebook to see whats going on. I may get made fun of my lack of knowledge of  the worldly news, but as i say "if its important, someone will mention it on Facebook"

  A friend of mine and his boy friend just got into a huge argument and, whether its my business or not, i checked Facebook constantly too see the status of the relationship (do we see where this one is going.) I soon realized that i was going to both of their pages checking through all the updates making sure that i didn't miss any of the drama. Subconsciously i was checking every time i accessed my page to make sure that i didn't miss any of  the arguments or most importantly, the "tell-all" update on the relationship status update.

 Eventually it came,

 "Such and such" went from being "in a relationship" to "single."

 At first i was relieved to finally see the out come, as if i were waiting for the cliff hanger of this weeks Parenthood (still no word on if Sarah will actually get married, or if the series was renewed for another season. Fingers crossed!) But then i began to think, These people are real they aren't some Primetime drama.

  I kinda felt bad (doesnt happen often) that i was thriving on their updates on their relationship. I mean its SOO not my business but like the lives of the Kardashians , even if i say i don't care, i want to be that fly on the wall, and see what happens next.

 Yeah the Kardashians (thats not a word according to my spell check.... i agree) are real people too, but they ask to put their every waking moment to America on TV, and they deserve every "read" that they get. They get paid for their drama.

 Am i the only person that, even just for a shred of a second, feels guilty about this crazy infatuation, or am i just harping on the new "reality." Or is this even really that new?

  Back in the day they might not of had Facebook, but they did have gossip, its just more accsessable now. People (i was gonna say women, but men do it too) want in your business, we thrive on other people misfourtunes. Man, woman, duck like creature from acient aliens that the guy with the hair said is real but we all know isnt but he is 100% positive without a doubt positve exsits... wait sorry thats another blog... any way, we all wanna know your business. You put it on the interwebs you aint safe son!

 any who...

 At the end of the day i wish both of them the best of luck. They truly are both great people (contrary to what i said when i was on the bottle) and i wish the best for both of them. Yes i still, and will always be, that guy. I will always prey on your Facebook, your Twitter, or whatever social media you choose to put your entire life on for everyone (yes everyone, your future employer sees all) to see. So if you don't want me to know... Who am i kidding, gurl i know all. Dont kid yourself. Remember i am, and for ever will be, That1GayGuyGuy